by Janet Ply, PhD · The Practical Leadership Newsletter · March 3, 2026
Lao Tzu, ancient Chinese philosopher, says this about leadership: “A leader is best when people barely know he exists; when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves.”
Many leaders want to keep being the go-to person. They answer the hard questions, fix issues quickly, and stay involved in the work that earned them their promotion.
Leadership becomes something they do after the “real work” is done.
When people come to you for answers, it reinforces your value. You feel needed. You’re trusted. You can move things forward quickly.
Who doesn’t want to feel this way?
So you keep stepping in, especially when the stakes are high and you can be the hero to others.
Here’s a quick assessment to determine if you fall into this trap. Rate each statement based on how often it’s true for you:
5 - Almost always, 4 - Often, 3 - Sometimes, 2 - Rarely, 1 - Almost Never
Scoring:
40–50: You may still be operating primarily as an individual contributor with a leadership title. Your team’s growth—and your ability to scale—may be limited by how much knowledge and decision-making remains with you.
25–39: You’re starting to shift into leadership, but may still step back into execution mode under pressure. Being intentional about coaching and delegation can help your team build capability.
10–24: You’re consistently developing others and creating space to focus on priorities, direction, and anticipating what’s ahead.
If you stay the expert, knowledge stays with you. Work flows upward instead of outward. Your team becomes dependent, and your calendar fills up with work someone else could be learning to do.
Over time, you don’t have space for prioritization, direction setting, or anticipating what’s ahead.
Your leadership career stagnates.
I’ve worked with hundreds of leaders at all levels and most gravitate to the work they like to do, instead of the strategic thinking, goal-setting, team development leadership work that adds value.
One of the questions I’ve asked many C-Suite executives is this:
“What are the most common reasons that hold leaders back from reaching senior levels?”
One of the top two reasons is almost always that they can’t scale because they won’t delegate work to teams.
One CIO shared with me that he had a Director who worked 60+ hours a week and was heavily involved in all decisions. This individual struggled to delegate and micromanaged. After investing in coaching for six months, nothing changed.
The CIO said, “I need leaders who can scale themselves and their teams. We terminated the Director and the replacement is night and day different. The teams are happier, they’re learning new skills, and aren’t being micromanaged. This group gets 10 times more work done than with the previous person in the role. I wish we had made this move much sooner.”
The very skills that got you promoted are now holding you back. You have to make the mindset shift to stop being the go-to expert and build expertise in your team. Here are ways to help you with this:
Remember that when you give answers, you are teaching your team that they don’t need to think. You become their crutch and when you give someone a crutch, they learn to limp.
I’ve heard so many leaders complain, “I’m so tired of having people bring me problems without solutions.” Maybe the leader is part of the problem.
Set the expectation that team members need to think through approaches and possible solutions before coming to you. Encourage peer problem-solving before escalating to you.
If you feel like you’re constantly reacting, constantly behind, constantly in catch-up mode and want to change that, it’s fixable.
In my upcoming workshop, From Overwhelm to Confident Control, we’ll work through:
This live virtual workshop equips you with tactics you can immediately put into place and provides the activities needed for leadership discipline.
If you’re ready to lead with confident control instead of constant reaction, I’d love to have you join us.
Details coming soon.
Let’s move from firefighting… to building something that doesn’t burn down every quarter.
If this resonates with you, my book, Practical Leadership: A Guide to Building Trust, Getting Results, and Changing Lives would be a great addition to your library.
Mel Robbins, New York Times bestselling author and host of the Mel Robbins podcast had this praise for the book, “Janet Ply is the real deal. I’ve seen way too many talented people flail in leadership because nobody ever taught them how to do the job well. This book fixes that. Janet has been in the fire, she’s led through chaos, and now she’s giving you the tools she’s used to rescue high-stakes, high-dollar messes. If you lead people - or you want to - Practical Leadership should live on your desk. Get it, use it, lead better.”
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